I’m slowly realising that if you force something, it doesn’t often pan out the way you want it to.
In our instant-access, quick-fix world, we’re so accustomed to snapping our fingers and Voila! – mission accomplished. And when it comes to relationships, issues of the heart and dreams we hope to achieve, we expect the same. Snap! Snap-Snap. Click. Post. And it’s all done.
But real life, the in-the-trenches, messy, try-your-hardest-day-in-and-day-out kind of stuff, just isn’t like that is it? Things don’t just fall into place like the all-too-convenient ending of a Rom-Com. And when they don’t, we tend to force the issue… Or at least, I know I do. I want to get my hands in there and make it work.
But the image of a budding flower popped into my head today. It’s so delicate and so beautiful. If we applied our heavy-handedness and tried to pry its petals open before it was ready, we’d break it. And it occurred to me, some things just need time to breathe, to open, to grow, to be. And all the pushing and pulling and pleading in the world won’t fast-track that process… In fact, it may land up bringing it to a screeching halt for good.
So whatever your situation is today… A creative block, a stubborn trait, a tricky relationship, maybe it’s time to take your hands off it for a moment and let it breathe. It’s not about sitting back and being apathetic, but about being at peace in the waiting and maturing process. In time, you may find it gently opens to full bloom.
(Photograph by Norman Hanna – www.hannaphotography.co.za)